Pam's Got A Point


Musings and Notions from a Genuinely Evaluative Mind

Addiction Addition

Take any family circumstance, add addiction, and it is worse. God meant for us to have enough control that we can navigate the world. Life is hard enough when we can see trouble coming and going. Life is challenging but, with our faculties on line, we can problem solve. Addiction adds fuzziness and confusion to an, already, challenging day. I … Read More


She’s a Pastor

It was the third time we have seen each other this year. We peered, unexpectantly, through the clothes aisle at everyone’s favorite discount store. How are you? Thank you. What are you up to these days? How are the kids? How are the grandkids? No offense, but I kept driving the conversation and she kept talking about herself. I was … Read More


Fair Share

My friend puts the book in a bag. It’s title? “Fair Share Divorce for Women”. The bag is going to value village where some other desperate and surprised woman will think it may help. It won’t. What my friend wanted was a good and faithful husband. She wanted someone to stay in the room with her on the last day … Read More


It’s the Truth

She has quietly been asking God to heal her. It’s been a long year but today she feels whole. The truth is she was whole before she met him. She had been whole for all of the 34 years. She is whole now but it hasn’t felt that way. The carnage of divorce is just ridiculous. I love you. I … Read More


A Burst of Blueberry

I love blueberries. I remember a slice of blueberry pie in Coos Bay, OR, on vacation with my family when I was a child. I like the dull sweetness. So years later, on our honeymoon, my “anxious to please” groom drove me all over Coos Bay and finally found a slice of boysenberry pie – good pie but not blueberry. … Read More


Too Great a Burden

I went for a walk instead. I had hoped to visit my friend who is on hospice. We don’t speak of it but have been spending Friday’s together. I try to see her another time during the week but it was an especially busy week as I prepare to leave town on Sunday. I’ll try again tomorrow. I am so … Read More


If the Goal in Life is…

If the goal in life is to be happy then God would not have invented babies who wake up at 2:00 AM. The sleep-deprived young mothers would rather be sleeping. If the goal in life is to be happy then plants that become food would not require so much attention. If the goal in life is to be happy then … Read More


If We Needed Rain

If we needed rain than the water blotches on my glasses would not be so irritating. See – something as common as rain can bring disaster or relief to the desert. It just depends on where we are. Flooding reminds people to build on higher ground. The sun in the desert is what we hope for but too much heat … Read More


25 or 26

I broke a tooth. It was shrimp at happy hour with a new neighbor – ouch. I am not always happy to go to the dentist but I made my morning appointment. The qualified assistant could not figure out if it was tooth #25 or tooth #26. Only someone who knows a person, their history, or their teeth would know … Read More


Grilled Cheese and Buried Treasure

It is that time of year again. Some rebels pretend that they are fine just the way they are. Most of us think we can do better. The usual themes showed up all over the internet and in print advertising. Here is a summary of what CostCo thinks we should change: eat clean, standout in 2017, be the real me, … Read More