Pam's Got A Point


Musings and Notions from a Genuinely Evaluative Mind

Desperate Breathing

When I am not sleeping well I can hear my husband who has a common sleep disorder that interrupts his breathing. It is awful to hear him struggle. We are nothing without air. We are less without water. Too much water and we drown. Nutrition is the next emergency deficiency. Desperate breathing is about balance. Breath in – breath out. … Read More


The Bond of Perfection

Is there anything un-flawed? Think about it. What is perfect? Is a number perfect? Is finding a gift the perfect gift? Is your new love perfect? Is your job, are your kids, your home, your thoughts, your new sexy sweater, your best bud, your vacation, your dream car? No not one is perfect. We expect some little flaw but we … Read More


Addiction Addition

Take any family circumstance, add addiction, and it is worse. God meant for us to have enough control that we can navigate the world. Life is hard enough when we can see trouble coming and going. Life is challenging but, with our faculties on line, we can problem solve. Addiction adds fuzziness and confusion to an, already, challenging day. I … Read More


She’s a Pastor

It was the third time we have seen each other this year. We peered, unexpectantly, through the clothes aisle at everyone’s favorite discount store. How are you? Thank you. What are you up to these days? How are the kids? How are the grandkids? No offense, but I kept driving the conversation and she kept talking about herself. I was … Read More


Fair Share

My friend puts the book in a bag. It’s title? “Fair Share Divorce for Women”. The bag is going to value village where some other desperate and surprised woman will think it may help. It won’t. What my friend wanted was a good and faithful husband. She wanted someone to stay in the room with her on the last day … Read More


It’s the Truth

She has quietly been asking God to heal her. It’s been a long year but today she feels whole. The truth is she was whole before she met him. She had been whole for all of the 34 years. She is whole now but it hasn’t felt that way. The carnage of divorce is just ridiculous. I love you. I … Read More


A Burst of Blueberry

I love blueberries. I remember a slice of blueberry pie in Coos Bay, OR, on vacation with my family when I was a child. I like the dull sweetness. So years later, on our honeymoon, my “anxious to please” groom drove me all over Coos Bay and finally found a slice of boysenberry pie – good pie but not blueberry. … Read More


Too Great a Burden

I went for a walk instead. I had hoped to visit my friend who is on hospice. We don’t speak of it but have been spending Friday’s together. I try to see her another time during the week but it was an especially busy week as I prepare to leave town on Sunday. I’ll try again tomorrow. I am so … Read More


If the Goal in Life is…

If the goal in life is to be happy then God would not have invented babies who wake up at 2:00 AM. The sleep-deprived young mothers would rather be sleeping. If the goal in life is to be happy then plants that become food would not require so much attention. If the goal in life is to be happy then … Read More


If We Needed Rain

If we needed rain than the water blotches on my glasses would not be so irritating. See – something as common as rain can bring disaster or relief to the desert. It just depends on where we are. Flooding reminds people to build on higher ground. The sun in the desert is what we hope for but too much heat … Read More